Hello my little blogging world! Today I feel inclined to write about the fact that I have no desire to find my other half. No, I’m not a heart broken 20 something who has given up on love. Nor am I a fragile, broken, woman who just wants to find herself first. Not that there’s really anything wrong with either of those, we all go through those stages at some point in life, but those aren’t my reasons for my lack of interest in this subject.
I don’t want to find my other half. Reason being, because I do not believe that person exists. I do not believe that there is a Yin to my Yang, or a moon to my stars or whatever cheesy saying you personally enjoy. I used to believe that. I used to believe there was someone out there who would “complete me”. Someone out there who would be my opposite and give me what I don’t have, just as I would do for them. I used to believe that I was looking for a missing puzzle piece, you know? Someone who fits me just right, but that’s not what I believe anymore.
I have no desire to find that missing piece, that other half, because I don’t think I am half of something. I am a whole person. I do not see myself as being incomplete without another person beside me. I am one being, with personality traits and quirks that are unique to me, that make me who I am. I am an individual. I am one whole person, not half of a unit. I do not need someone to feel whole. I do not “need” someone else at all. I can survive, thrive even, on my own. I am not looking for someone to complete me. I am not interested in finding someone who makes me feel whole because I shouldn’t need someone to make me feel that way. I should feel that way flying solo.
I am looking for someone who makes me happy. It’s really that simple. I am interested in finding someone who makes me happier when we’re together, but not upset when we’re apart. A person who allows me to be an individual, to be independent, but who I prefer to have around because of how they make me feel and how we are when we’re together. I don’t want someone who is looking for their other half, because I am not that. I do not complete you. I am an addition to your life. We are two whole’s that work best together. I want to be able to be alone, to not “need” that person, but to also know that we’re good together and I am at my best and my happiest when they are around.
I am not looking for my other half, I’m looking for someone who I can survive without, but that I don’t ever want to.