What I Hate About Non-Vegans

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Okay, this is going to be a bit of a rant that might be scattered and confusing!

I personally do not identify as vegan because I have not yet accepted the lifestyle fully. I do consume a 99% plant based diet and I do not support animal cruelty in terms of vanity. Since beginning the transition process, I have taken notice of all the stereotypes there are surrounding the vegan community. I have also noticed the ignorant statements that people who consume a non-vegan diet say about vegans and their way of life, and I have something to say about it.

In no way am I insulting those who eat a non-vegan diet, also known as a standard American diet or omnivorous diet. I personally don’t care what you choose to put into your body. I really don’t. What bothers me is when those of you who do choose to eat an omnivorous diet think you know what veganism actually is simply because you’ve heard a stereotype. What bothers me is when people hear that someone is a vegan and they roll their eyes or snicker under their breath. It’s incredibly rude and disheartening. There is no need for it.

Something that truly bothers me is when I hear statements like, “vegans think they’re all high and mighty just because they didn’t order a burger that the person one table over is going to order anyway! They’re not even making a difference! Just eat the burger”. That is an incredibly ignorant statement. The process of supply and demand is effected by the purchase of products by consumers. By choosing not to engage in the purchasing of animal products, the demand is decreased, resulting in a lower supply need, which ultimately results in less torture and slaughter of animals.

The majority of people follow that up by laughing and saying “but one person isn’t going to change the supply and demand of a product”. That is basically true, one person won’t make any kind ofย a dent, but I am not the only person choosing to eat a plant based diet. There are thousands of people engaging in that lifestyle. Thousands of people choosing to not purchase animal products, that’s going to begin to makeย a dent in company supply/demand. Dairy, for example, has seen a drastic drop in sales over the past couple of years due to the production of a wide variety of plant-based milks such as soy, cashew, almond, etc. Many people are no longer purchasing dairy milk, or are at least decreasing the amount that they purchase, which results in the company not needing to supply as much of that product, which then results in less artificial insemination of cows for their milk.

People who consume an omnivorous diet don’t want to be told that what they have been taught is wrong. The majority feel attacked when a vegan steps up and tries to educate them on what they’re eating and why it is bad for their health.ย Vegans are not trying to attack you. They are not even trying to sway you one way or another. They are trying to educate you because most vegans have done their own research and have realized that what human beings have been taught is both lie and tradition.

Instead of basing every vegan you meet on a stereotype and rolling your eyes at them, how about you ask them why they chose to go that route? How about you ask questions and receive answers. Enlighten yourself. Learn something. Nobody is asking you to agree. Nobody is pressuring you or trying to make you feel guilty. That’s on you. If you feel guilty when you’re informed about veganism and what it entails, that’s not the fault of the person informing you, that’s on you.

I am asking non-vegans to drop this damn stereotype you have over vegans and even vegetarians. We chose to live our lives differently than you. We did our homework and made a decision based on health and personal morals. Why does that make us bad people? Why does that make vegans the enemy?

 

I Answer 10 Personal Questions About Myself. A 5 Part Series.

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*Questions writtenย  by Nicole Tarkoff*

1. What’s one thing that’s happened to you that has made you a stronger person?

– The one thing that comes to mind is something that needs it’s own post. I’m a victim or sexual abuse/sexual indecency/rape, and facing that that has absolutely made me a stronger person.

2. What’s one thing that has happened to you in your life that made you feel weak?

– Being punched by someone I called a friend in 9th grade, in the middle of studyhall, just because she wanted to. I sat there and she punched my arm 7 times. Nobody did anything. So not only did I feel weak, I felt alone.

3. Where is one place you feel most like yourself?

– In a flower garden taking macro photography shots of the bees and flowers.

4. Where is your favorite place to escape to?

– My bathroom. No idea why.

5. What do you think has had the largest influence on who you are today?

– Genetics and environmental stimuli. I’m a very anxious, shy, self conscious girl and that is primarily the result of genetics and the way I grew up.

6. If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?

– To not be so insecure.

7. If you had one day left to live, what would you do first?

– Tell my current boyfriend that I love him because I think he deserves to know that if I’m going to die in 24 hours anyway!

8. What decade do you feel you most belong in?

– I get told I should have been born in the 70’s all of the time because I’m into loud patterns on clothing and baggy pants…

9. Who are you closest to in your family? Why?

– I do not come from a tight knit family…but I’d say I’m closest to my mom because she is the person I tell things like breakups to first, even if I don’t actually want to talk about them. She is who I spend the most time with and who I feel the most relaxed with.

10. Who is the one person in this world that knows you best?

– People have always come and gone in my life, so it’s really difficult to choose a single person who knows me “best”, other than myself. Because of course, I know me best.

 

 

Adrenaline Junky??

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Q: What are the most dangerous things you enjoy? How dangerous would an activity have to be before you would avoid it? Do you get more reckless or more cautious when you are feeling good about life?

A: I do not do dangerous things…at all hahaha. I am not an adrenaline junky. The most “dangerous” thing I have ever done if jumping off a cliff into a lake below. I also like to free climb, but it’s not on anything too serious. I like to sit on the edge of stuff too. Ohย I like zip lining…ย That’s about it! I would never go sky diving, hang gliding, or anything deemed extreme. I am adventurous, but I am in no way an adrenaline junky or a dare devil or anything like that!

I don’t really know if I get more dangerous or cautious when I’m feeling good about life. I never really paid attention to that.

Love vs Jealousy

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Q: Would you still feel loved if your lover never felt jealous?

A: Yes. I would absolutely still feel loved. I don’t believe love is based solely on attraction, it is a combination of personality traits, goals, morals, aspirations, lifestyles, physical traits, etc. It’s this big mesh. I have no interest in making my lover jealous. I think it’s sweet if my partner is to express some jealousy, but I don’t seek it and it does not determine whether or not I consider myself loved.

And Then I Met You

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I was once so trusting.
So loving.
So passionate,
and then I met you.
I was once so free.
So happy.
So safe,
and then I met you.
I mean,
I had my problems,
but I was getting better.
I was two years clean,
and then I met you.
I was eating well again,
and then I met you.
I was still fighting my battles,
but I was finally winning,
and then,
I Met You.
I met you
and suddenly I was back at square one.
Suddenly I was stealing pain pills from a closet.
Suddenly I was dropping out of college after college,
failing to see the point,
failing to see who I was before you.
You,
who took all the good parts of me.
You
who took that trusting, free, loving girl
and made her into something you could control.
You who raped me
without my even realizing it was rape because that is how normal it had become.
You who now haunts my every day,
my every night.
You who made me this shell of a person.
So much so,
that I can’t even let the man I now love,
love me back,
because I am too afraid that I’ll lose sight of myself yet again.
because I am too afraid that I will not be good enough.
He will never get to see the me I was before I met you.
Hell, I probably never will either,
because back then,
I was trusting.
Back then I was free.
I was lost but I was finding myself.
I was winning a war that I had been fighting for years.
Back then,
I was me.
And then I met you.